Can relationships recover from infidelity

Wayward codependent. Empowering others to find hope and healing in their own recovery and restoration journey. Passionate about the ripple effects of healing from infidelity on the younger generations.

Alumnus. Believing that true healing begins when we run toward God, not away from Him, especially in times of crisis. He shares his journey of closing the gap between head and heart, discovering deeper levels of forgiveness and intimacy along the way.

Recovery from infidelity can depend on cultural background. It may depend on a couples personal or religious views. Many couples pursue therapy to decide if they should stay in a relationship after the affair. Therapy may help them process their feelings about it.

He says that he loves me and hes screwed up. But in the very long discussions we have had, he also told me he loved her, and when I said the only way to be with me was to cut all contact with her, he said he couldnt do that. It was an impossible choice. When I mentioned it a second time, he was silent. At that point, I felt he had no fight for our marriage. Im not sure Ive seen much since.

From what I can see, they have not had sex. He says they havent and I do believe him on this (I knew when he was lying at the start of this discovery). But, he clearly fancies her. She is much younger, prettier and divorced. Im not sure if the feeling is reciprocated - it does seems more flirting on her part. But a part of the conversation has been him discussing our sex life, calling it chore sex and the like. (For context we are in our 50s and have been together for 30 years).

Alumna, betrayed. After enduring Betrayal Trauma, Karen developed a passion for assisting other betrayed partners in their journey to grieve, find hope, and rebuild their lives following such a life-shattering event.

For now, he has left. Im devastated and am reeling. Turns out he has told several people that he is not happy in our marriage. We have been working on things, and I have been trying to make an effort.

Just discovered that my husband is having an emotional affair with a work colleague. Of course, he followed the script minimising the situation, not wanting me to see his phone, hiding her messages in a hidden folder etc etc.